Before we go into this subject
at greater length, remember that
there are “givens” which
greatly influence human behavior.
Lets attribute them to our emotional
makeup. It determines how
we process human events. But first
a word of caution. When we talk
of female or male behavior, it
is easy to generalize and stereotype.
These generalities are
not necessarily sex linked, but
If I am an eagle flying two hundred
feet high and I look down and see
two people wearing baseball caps,
I will not be aware of their sexual
differences. But I assure you that
in any fifteen minute argument
with my wife over who sees what,
she will claim she can make the
I believe I am
cognitive, intelligent and reasonable.
I prefer not to raise my voice
and would like to think that my
arguments substantiate my position.
Not she. She expresses herself
the way she feels and with a good
deal and flash of emotion. I remember
traveling one day in our car and
taking exception to my wife's point
of view. In my exasperation I
said for “for God's
sake will you be reasonable”.
She turned towards me and in sarcasm
and emotion said “Reasonable,
you are the famous analyst you
be reasonable, there is no way
I need to be”. After a stab
of anger, I laughed. We are different.
She was going to express herself
the way she felt with a great
deal of emotion. I know
what I think and she knows what
This can be a source of contention,
but our partners do not need to
act or react the same way we do.
They should complement us. She
brings emotional fiber and timber
to my life and I hope my understanding
and my intellect brings something
of value to hers. Separately we
have a clear identity, but, considered
jointly I believe the music is
fuller and the fabric of our lives
Let's call this complimentarily,
an important factor in human partnerships.