| I
would like to approach this with a certain
humor and openness of mind.
I came across two newspaper
photographs of a lion and a lioness .
In the first photo
the male lion is roaring as he stands
astride a lioness who is in a playfully
submissive
position, a clear picture of male
dominance . The second photo is
of the male lion huddle in a corner
while he is clearly being "scolded" and
yelled at by the lioness
in the dominant position. These
photos are labeled before and
after marriage, the
marital hiss.
Immediately
thoughts and feelings arise.
While the male courts the
female showing the power
of his overtures, his phallic
behavior. the female is hardly
passive; she
invites or rejects, and if she does, her admiration encourages the courtship
. But at what point
and under what conditions
does this change. When
does the purr
turns into growl. What does the male want and what does he fear; what
does the
female want and what does she fear. They are similar desires and fears,
but hardly
the same. Let's explore this.
Someone
once said the young proud buck wants to spread his seed and the female
wants him to yield his fantasy for hers,
which is a commitment with a gratifying
relationship. George Bernard
Shaw says: "a woman marries
to change him".
Margaret Meade once said , "90% of the behavior of men and women
is culturally
determined", I thought anatomy is destiny. There are opposite
views.
If
the woman produces one egg once a month, she sits guard over that channel.
If the man shoots thousands of sperm
he hardly cares were it goes. They
are
biologically different. I believe this affects gender behavior. Anyway
lets talk about
this.
See you next week.
Dr. J. Leff | 
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