It is obvious that the "nesting
instinct" or "security"
is rooted in the "biological
imperative" to provide secutiry
for ones offspring.
These are not really opposing positions,
since it offers a man the security
of a home life and biological continuity
and for the woman a place to entertain
her own authority, competence and
marketplace for her needs.
Each belonging and complementing
each others need systems.
( For discussion
purposes, we have ignored the great
changes brought about by the woman's
having greater economic freedom
and opportunity. Never the less
in my mind the concept still holds.
If this is the case what can and
does go wrong. One can say almost
anything. If a relationship is a
dynamic state and not a fixed one,
as our life changes so do our needs
We all posses an
internal gyroscope that balances
us, and at times this can be thrown
off balance. First by circumstances,
and in my mind and experience who
we are and where from the past are
important elements in the dynamic
Lets talk about
who we are and were in the role
it plays, at another time.
The role of who
we were in the past in an important
aspect of who we are in the present.
by Dr. J. Leff